A wise man while addressing audience cracked a joke, people laughed. He repeated same joke and very few people laughed. He repeated for the third time and nobody laughed. Then he said,“When we don’t laugh at a same joke then why do we cry repeatedly for the same incident”.
Failures are part of everyone’s life. All great men have tasted its bitter fruit. Mahatma Gandhi couldn’t speak in the court for the first time and ended up by repaying his client fee. Abraham Lincoln was a failure throughout his life but his defeats didn’t stop him and in 1860 he became the president of America. These great people definitely have something exceptional that helps them to overcome their past failures; some of them are catered below:
Form partnerships with winners. Winning is a habit, so if you have been failed, partner yourself with winners. So that you can re-acquire the habit of winning. We can learn a lot in the company of winners. Your attitude becomes more positive and at the same time your confidence also increases.
Avoid the company of negative people- negativity pulls you down and create doubts in your own mind. With the disturbed soul you loose focus and passion for your goal. As you think of past, you don’t see the opportunity in your hand.
Find a Guru. A Major part of winning is overcoming your fears. Fears are best overcome when you surrender yourself to a guru. A Guru will give you direction and strength. His presence will also give you solace.
Formulate minor goals and accomplish them no matter what. As already mentioned, winning is a habit. So try to acquire minor victories without ignoring them. A major victory is nothing but summation of minor victories achieved over a period of time.
Focus on your strengths- A defeat is a God’s way of telling you, that you haven’t focused enough on your strengths. Be it the strength of intellect (Einstein) or character (Gandhi). If you count your victories you can take a step ahead more confidently. So focusing on ones strengths give positive outlook thus helping in facing challenges.
Find a cause bigger than yourself in life- ranging from blood donation to teaching kids to standing up for something. They all boost your self-confidence, makes you feel good, and also add good deeds to your karma’s. You should always have small goals and one bigger goal.
Be helpful- Just the extension of the earlier principle. It’s a good habit with multi-dimensional returns, this definitely gives feeling of high esteem. When you are involved in particular cause you develop good network as you meet new people and explore relationships thus elevating social status.
Keep a diary – A diary can be your best friend. You can tell it what you cannot tell others. It’s a chronicle of daily victories and defeats, so you learn from them and do not repeat the same mistakes. Keep a record of sweet memories and nice people. Whenever you are feeling low, just follow the rule.
Count your success- Every success matters in life. One needs to be successful in personal, social, professional life. But with your every effort God’s blessing is also significant, without whose blessing nothing moves in the world. So cherish all success however minor they may be.
Read inspirational and classic books- A good book is nothing but the collection of its time. Whatever you are facing has been faced by others also. Good books inspire you. You are in conversation of great people of their times when you read books.
And finally live in the moment as Buddha said- Past is gone, it will never come back. Future is unknown nobody knows what is going to happen tomorrow. So live in the present and mint it to the maximum.
You can’t undo event in your life, but you can nullify the effect of your defeats on present and future as well. You have to meditate and introspect over your strengths, and follow the above rules to be successful in life. The key is to use every moment of life in positive and constructive manner. A real success is when you have true friends, good profession, a sound health and happiness in your life.